This may actually sound extremely feminist but it really isn’t.

There are so many cases when the so called war stating that “women are from Venus and men are from Mars” does not apply.

All the very cynical statements that every woman on Earth has the target of changing her man may actually be the result of a compulsive behavior all women have – the one of upgrading everything around.

It is rather simple when you think of it and it is conditioned by the same principle that makes a woman reminding the details , reminding the dates of important events and being able to memorize an entire shopping list without having to write it down.

Of course it has to do with hormones, the nesting theory and many other physical and psychological features a doctor would explain better than me but it all relates to the women’s compulsive need to improve.

On an average scale the men become better in a relationship. The many factors such as being exposed to a regular routine where a dependable half brushes their style, their manners and their behavior encouraging them to be constructive, creative and responsible, polish the male armor.

Women do it out of love, and that is a fact. The roots are pretty much set in the need of being loved by the man of their dreams. Still when in love women tend to better the very features their men have.

If the man is smart, she will encourage him to study, if he is skilled, she will encourage him to act, if he is talented she will encourage him to dream.

The truth is the women are seduced by the very idea of making a better man.

Perhaps the statement is pushed to the limit, but the study was conducted in 1998 on a segment of 600 couples of different ages and the result was the same.

How is this upgrading men? Well, guys, think on it for a second.

How many men gave up smoking because of their nagging spouse?

How many men finished their studies after their feminine half told them repeatedly to do it?

How many men, changed their clothing style, gave up habits bad for themselves, got a better job, achieved an impossible purpose knowing that there is a woman there knowing he can do it?

The answer is …a lot.

Women may be compulsive, stressful, overachieving but they are also naturally programmed to want better.

Maybe as little girls we dream of Prince Charming and the reality offers us Rumpelstiltskin and this triggers the urge to improve, still… in the end we always mean to love a better man.